.jpg)
You're not lazy
or bad at being an adult
or stupid
or not trying hard enough
or broken
Your brain is not the problem
You just need the right kind of support, and the right kind of support hasn't been around for very long
Neuro-Affirming, Evidence-Based, Certified, ADHD Coaching
ADHD Coaching only became formalized, popular, and recognized by the International Coaching Federation within the last 15 years!
​
And even still, many continue to see ADHD and other neurodivergences as childhood conditions that people simply outgrow.
​
This has left many adult ADHDers (and fellow neurodivergents) to white-knuckle it on our own.
​​
Now you can find support, tailored to your specific needs, in a partnership with a coach who gets it.
​
​
Book a Call
Take a deep breath
You have finally found the support you've been missing the whole time
I believe neurodivergent people deserve support that doesn’t ask them to become someone else.
​​
Too often, support is framed around “fixing” or “overcoming” challenges—when what’s really needed is space to understand yourself more deeply, compassionately, and on your own terms. My coaching isn’t about helping you fit into systems that weren’t built for you. It’s about helping you find ways to navigate those systems without losing yourself in the process.
​
I see ADHD coaching as a space for experimentation, reflection, and building trust with your own brain. That might mean learning to work with your executive function, unlearning internalized ableism, finding communication strategies that feel good, or just making more room in your life for rest and self-acceptance.
​
ADHD Coaching/Autism Coaching with me is nonjudgmental, collaborative, and grounded in the belief that you’re not broken—you’re brilliant. And you don’t have to do it alone.
ICF Certified (ACC)
Informed by:
-
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) for ADHD
-
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
-
​Positive Psychology
-
Coaching Psychology
-
Zen-Buddhist Philosophy
-
Lived Experience
-
Client Experience
Coach Gill has a certificate in Adult Education and is an ICF Associate Certified Coach (ACC).
​
They have coached hundreds of neurodivergent folks --Autists, ADHDers, Dyslexic folks, AuDHDers, and other neuro-kin!
​
They have years of experience advising teams and organizations on how to make their workplaces more inclusive and accessible, specifically for neurodivergent and disabled professionals.
​
Gill has coached new grads navigating new jobs, VPs being told they're "too abrasive" to be promoted, and Sr. managers figuring out what a new AuDHD diagnosis means to them while facing menopause.
​
She works with folks who work at all levels of big consulting firms, banks, insurance companies, the government, and tech firms, and with students, new grads, entrepreneurs, freelancers, and creatives.
​
Gill has worked with hundreds of neurodivergent people seeking ease in their lives and systems, tools, and strategies tailored to their unique brain.
Why
"The Low Achiever"?
%20(350%20x%20350%20px).png)
The Parable of the Mexican Fisherman
An American investment banker was at the pier of a small coastal Mexican village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the small boat were several large yellowfin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them.
​
The Mexican replied, “only a little while”. The American then asked why didn’t he stay out longer and catch more fish? The Mexican said he had enough to support his family’s immediate needs. The American then asked, “but what do you do with the rest of your time?”
​
The Mexican fisherman said, “I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take siestas with my wife, Maria, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine, and play guitar with my amigos. I have a full and busy life.” The American scoffed, “I am a Harvard MBA and could help you. You should spend more time fishing and with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat. With the proceeds from the bigger boat, you could buy several boats, eventually you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman you would sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing, and distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then LA and eventually New York City, where you will run your expanding enterprise.”
​
The Mexican fisherman asked, “But, how long will this all take?”
​
To which the American replied, “15 – 20 years.”
​
“But what then?” Asked the Mexican.
​
The American laughed and said, “That’s the best part. When the time is right you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich, you would make millions!”
​
“Millions – then what?”
​
The American said, “Then you would retire. Move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your (grand)kids, take siestas with your wife, stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos.”
​
-Author Unknown
Flourishing, Thriving & Well-Being
Well-being isn’t just the absence of stress or struggle, but the presence of meaning, vitality, and connection.
Flourishing and thriving mean more than simply “getting by," they describe a life where people feel good and function well, where growth and fulfillment come alongside joy and resilience.
​
A common trap in our culture is believing that happiness is something we can grind our way toward through constant self-improvement.
We’re conditioned to chase “more” and “better,” to compare ourselves endlessly, and to measure our worth by productivity or success.
But this relentless striving often backfires. It creates burnout, isolation, and the sense that we’re never enough.
​
Well-being is built on something far simpler: connection, compassion, and meaning. Investing in our relationships, practicing gratitude, and showing kindness toward ourselves actually strengthens resilience, performance, and long-term satisfaction more effectively than hustle culture ever can.
Self-compassion — treating ourselves with the same care we offer others — allows us to recover faster from setbacks and move through life with greater ease.
​
True thriving isn’t about doing it all, perfectly and endlessly.
It’s about reorienting away from the illusion of hustle and toward what sustains us: supportive relationships, moments of meaning, and practices that bring us back to our humanity.
Flourishing happens when we stop treating life as a competition and start treating it as an opportunity to live more fully and freely.
The Role of
Neuro-Affirming
Coaching
Many neurodivergent people grow up absorbing far more negative messaging than their peers. ADHDers are told they are lazy, careless, unreliable, or too much. Autistic folks are told they are cold, rigid, or difficult.
This constant feedback trains the nervous system to expect failure and fuels perfectionism and fear of being judged.
Hustle culture exploits that fear. It says perform harder, mask better, and maybe you will finally be acceptable. That is not thriving. That is survival mode with better branding.
​
Success is not a single staircase to the top. It is personal and contextual.
For a neurodivergent adult, success might be a work week that protects energy and sensory needs. It might be three solid hours of deep focus rather than eight hours of context switching. It might be relationships where communication differences are respected.
When we name success on our own terms, motivation becomes cleaner and self respect grows. We move from compensating for imagined deficits to building a life that actually fits.
​
Comparison is especially corrosive for autistic and similarly neurodivergent people because it rewards conformity and punishes difference. Metrics that ignore sensory load, executive function tax, and social labor will always misrepresent reality. If you compare your path to a template designed for someone with different wiring, you will conclude you are behind even when you are making real progress.
The antidote is values based goals, compassionate routines, and communities that celebrate diverse ways of thinking and doing.
​
My approach rejects the grind and centers what works for your brain. We build relational support, practice self compassion, and set goals that honor your strengths and limits. We measure progress by alignment and sustainability, not by how well you mask or how much you can endure. The result is less shame, more agency, and a definition of thriving that you actually recognize as your own.
​​​​​​​​​​​​ADHD coaching is a collaborative relationship designed to help you work with your brain—not against it.
It’s not about “fixing” anything—it’s about building tools, structures, and mindsets that actually respect how your brain works so you can live in alignment with your values.​
​
A lot of folks with ADHD and/or Autism aren’t disconnected from what they care about—they just get blocked, overwhelmed, stuck, or burnt out trying to navigate a world not built for them. Coaching creates space to untangle those blocks and experiment with new approaches that make life feel more doable (and ideally more joyful, too).
​
There’s no single way ADHD coaching is “supposed” to look. The approach I use is flexible, trauma-informed, and pluralistic—meaning we adapt our work together based on what actually supports you. Together, we explore your goals, your capacity, your patterns, and what gets in the way—and then we build strategies that are customized, realistic, and rooted in your values.​
How ADHD Coaching Helps​
​
Depending on your needs and preferences, ADHD coaching can support you in areas like:
-
Time management and prioritizing when everything feels urgent
-
Task initiation (a.k.a. starting the damn thing)
-
Reducing overwhelm and avoiding burnout
-
Building routines and systems that work with your energy, not against it
-
Following through on projects and habits without shame
-
Setting boundaries and saying no
-
Understanding how ADHD shows up in your relationships, work, creativity, and daily life
-
Letting go of internalized judgment and redefining what success means to you
​
The Way I Work
​
I pull from a variety of evidence-informed approaches depending on what you need:
​
-
Executive functioning support – for planning, prioritizing, organizing, and regulating emotions
-
Psychoeducation – to help you understand your brain, contextualize your patterns, and reduce shame
-
Values-based coaching – rooted in Acceptance and Commitment Coaching, to help you move toward what matters even when things feel hard
-
Cognitive-behavioral strategies – for challenging unhelpful thought loops and shifting how you relate to your experiences
-
Emotional intelligence & interpersonal skill building – to navigate social dynamics with more awareness and intention
-
Self-efficacy & experimentation – where we co-create small, doable experiments to try between sessions and reflect on what works
​
We don't just talk about what’s not working—we get curious, try stuff, adapt, and build a toolkit together. There’s no one-size-fits-all solution, but there is a way forward that feels more aligned with your real life, not your idealized LinkedIn version.
​
Coaching Is Goal Oriented
​
Coaching is a structured, goal oriented conversation using a methodology where you are given space to question current thoughts, beliefs, behaviours, and your approaches to certain situations, problems, or experiences, with the intention to shift your perspective and mindset in order to reach your desired outcomes.
​
Coaching Evokes Awareness
​
Coaching is about paying attention. The science on human achievement is clear, paying attention, being aware, and living our lives intentionally, are the overarching themes in what leads to a satisfying life.
​
Coaching is about evoking awareness and insight​ and exploring beyond your current thinking. Coaching helps you identify factors that influence current and future patterns of behaviour, thinking, and emotions​. It is an invitation to generate ideas about how you can move forward and discover/determine what you are willing or able to do​.
​
Coaching helps people pause and take inventory. Coaching can support you in finding clarity, figuring out what you want, sifting through the noise and deciding what's next.
​​​​
Executive Function Coaching
(The Human Way)
My coaching approach is shaped by the work of psychologist Russell Barkley, who described executive functions as the self-directed actions we use to set goals and follow through on them over time—especially in social contexts. Basically: it’s the behind-the-scenes brainwork that helps us plan, organize, regulate emotions, start things, finish things, and adapt when things change.
​
Some common executive functions include:
​
-
Inhibiting distractions
-
Regulating emotions
-
Problem-solving
-
Organizing information or spaces
-
Starting tasks
-
Shifting gears when plans change
​
A lot of the folks I work with struggle with things like time management, finishing projects, starting things that feel overwhelming, or adapting to changes in routine. That’s not a personal failure—it’s often an executive function challenge. And it can absolutely be supported.
​
In coaching, we work together to figure out where you want more support and create tools, systems, or habits that actually work for your brain. You’re the expert in your own life—my role is to help you experiment, reflect, and adapt so that the support fits you.
​
Each week, we check in on what worked, what didn’t, and what you learned from trying. We keep tweaking until you’ve got something that feels sustainable—not perfect, but doable.
Because support shouldn’t feel like another thing to manage. It should feel like a relief.
​
​
​
​
​​​​​​
Coaching is Based in Scientific Research
Coaching methodology is rooted in neuroscience, specifically around neuroplasticity and the discovery that the human brain can rewire and change, as well as the research behind Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). CBT is based on a model of the relationships between cognition, emotion, and behavior. The three aspects of cognition are the focus of CBT: automatic thoughts, cognitive distortions, and underlying beliefs.
​
Circumstances/Beliefs --> Thoughts --> Emotions/Feelings --> Actions --> Results
​
Automatic Thoughts - Our circumstances and/or beliefs lead to our thoughts which shape our emotions which lead to our actions.
For example:
When someone cuts you off on the highway you might think "what an as*h@le! They think they're so entitled! I can't believe they would do something so dangerous!! No one knows how to drive anymore!" And you feel enraged and frustrated, so you lay on your horn and gesture to them, indicating your displeasure. They gesture back at you. You tell the story later when you arrive at the office all amped up. OR, someone cuts you off on the highway and you think, "Oh good thing I'm paying attention, maybe they're a new driver or they're running late for something important." You feel glad that you were on the ball and grateful there was no accident. You move on and almost instantly forget it happened.
​
Cognitive Distortions - You may already be familiar with some common cognitive distortions, also known as errors in logic or logical fallacies.
Some examples:
-
Dichotomous thinking: Things are seen regarding two mutually exclusive categories with no shades of gray in between.
-
Mind reading: Assuming the thoughts and intentions of others.
-
Fortune telling: Predicting how things will turn out before they happen.
-
Minimization: Positive characteristics or experiences are treated as real but insignificant.
-
Catastrophizing: Focusing on the worst possible outcome, however unlikely, or thinking that a situation is unbearable or impossible when it is just uncomfortable.
-
“Should” statements: Concentrating on what you think “should” or “ought to be” rather than the actual situation you are faced with or having rigid rules which you always apply no matter the circumstances.
​
Underlying Beliefs - Beliefs are the hidden scripts that run our lives. Long term, your beliefs determine your destiny. You may not even be aware of of some of the core beliefs you have because they are so deeply engrained, you simply see them as the truth. Our beliefs come from our parents, upbringing, friends, religion, culture, and society at large. But our beliefs are a choice, and they can be change. Some examples:
-
I'm not good at math and never will be
-
Marriages never last, and the ones that do are unhappy
-
I can't be truly happy until I reach my goal weight
-
I'm not good at managing people
-
Women should have children
-
People will only like me if I'm agreeable
-
People are inherently bad
-
I need to be perfect to be worthy of love
​
Coaching is distinct from therapy in important ways (see below), but does follow a similar, practical, collaborative approach to achieving desired goals. ​
​​
A Flexible, Evidence-Backed Approach
My coaching style is integrative and flexible, which means I pull from a range of evidence-based approaches depending on what you need—not a one-size-fits-all model.
​
Some of the frameworks I often use include Acceptance and Commitment Coaching (ACC), Cognitive Behavioral Coaching (CBC), and other tools that support reflection, behavior change, and nervous system regulation. These approaches give us a solid foundation—but every session is personalized, because no two brains (or lives) are the same.
​
We decide together what’s useful. Sometimes that means experimenting with structure and accountability; sometimes it means unpacking beliefs or practicing new ways to respond to stress. The process is collaborative, responsive, and always centered on what’s actually helpful for you.
​
ACC, in particular, shows up a lot in my work. It helps us focus on values-based living—getting clearer on what matters to you, and building skills to navigate the discomfort that can come with doing things differently.
​
The goal isn’t perfection. It’s support that feels human, grounded, and doable.
​
The Power of Being Listened To
​
​​​​Research has shown time and time again that there are benefits from simply being in a conversation where someone is actually listening to you. We've all had conversations with friends, family members, or partners where we are sharing our thoughts with them and they are not really paying attention or they jump right to giving advice that isn't useful and demonstrates even further how little they understand what you're going through.
​
Studies have shown that speakers partnered with good listeners leave the conversation feeling less anxious, more self-aware, and they also reported higher clarity about their attitudes on the topics discussed. Speakers also reported having great insight, self-knowledge, and cognitive flexibility. All of those benefits, just from being listened to.
​
Coaching Reduces Burnout
​
A study cited in a journal article from the Journal of Occupational Health Psychology in 2020 found coaching as an intervention to address burnout in primary Care Physicians "significantly reduced burnout, job stress, turnover intentions, improved psychological capital, job satisfaction/engagement, and job self-efficacy by the end of the coaching intervention."
​
Coaching helps coachees avoid and navigate burnout by improving confidence through reframing challenging situations and seeing new possibilities. Coaching can also help build self-compassion through reflection, and also improve compassion for others.
​
Coaching Works
​
"Coaching in organization and leadership settings is also an invaluable tool for developing people across a wide range of needs. The benefits of coaching are many; 80% of people who receive coaching report increased self-confidence, and over 70% benefit from improved work performance, relationships, and more effective communication skills. 86% of companies report that they recouped their investment on coaching and more."
​
​