Talking to Loved Ones About ADHD

Gillian Forth
May 16
2 min read

Updated: Aug 5

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Talking to loved ones about how ADHD interacts with hormones takes courage—and tenderness, both for yourself and for them. Here's a gentle framework you can use or adapt, rooted in connection, clarity, and compassion:

🌿 1. Set the Tone: "I want to share something personal with you."

Let them know this is important and comes from a place of wanting closeness, not blame or explanation.

"I've been learning more about how ADHD and hormonal shifts impact me, and I’d love to share a bit with you—not because I expect you to fix it, but because your support really matters to me."

🧠 2. Share What You’re Learning: "This is how it works for me."

Give a little insight into the science, but keep it grounded in your lived experience. Help them understand the “why” without overwhelming them.

"ADHD affects my focus, emotions, and energy, and it gets a lot harder during certain parts of my cycle—like right before my period or during big hormonal changes like perimenopause."

"That’s when I might seem more distracted, tired, sensitive, or withdrawn—not because I don’t care, but because my brain is working overtime just to stay steady."

🫶 3. Invite Understanding: "Here’s what helps."

Offer gentle guidance on how they can support you, especially when symptoms spike. It’s okay to be specific or to just open the door.

"In those moments, I might need more space or reassurance, fewer decisions, or just some grace if I’m not as responsive."

"Sometimes it helps if you check in with me or remind me I’m not alone—it helps quiet the self-doubt that can get loud."

💗 4. Affirm the Relationship: "I care about how we stay connected."

This helps them feel included and affirms your desire to stay close, even when things feel foggy or hard.

"I’m sharing this because I want us to keep understanding each other better. I know I can be hard on myself, and your kindness makes such a difference."